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Greetings fellow computer techs. I've put together a Google Site you may find useful. by waytootiredin computertechs

[–]sezzme 1 point2 points ago

I think you should coordinate this with folks doing the FAQ over at /r/24hoursupport.

I feel like shit and need to watch a lighthearted film. What do you watch when you need to feel better? by iambic9poetryin AskReddit

[–]sezzme 0 points1 point ago

Not a movie, but a lighthearted music video with a stage design that looks like some kind of Muppet production.

I thought the singing barn and the watermelon chorus was funny enough, but when those dancing eggs came on stage, I just completely busted a gut.

I feel like shit and need to watch a lighthearted film. What do you watch when you need to feel better? by iambic9poetryin AskReddit

[–]sezzme 0 points1 point ago

Stranger than Fiction

Dark Star (the 70's SF flick)

My girlfriend just found out she can't have children and being a guy I have no idea how to comfort her about this can you please help me out here? by ajax_2232in AskReddit

[–]sezzme 0 points1 point ago

How to deal with your woman's emotional distress in general, no matter what the issue. Substitute whatever she is saying for the statements below:

  • Repeat what she just said, then affirm her position. "Your uncle made a pass at you? That's fucked up."
  • Ask for more details. "Was he drunk? Did he realize it was you?"
  • Ask how she felt/feels about it. "Were you freaking out? What are you going to do at Thanksgiving?"

    If you're having trouble following, and you feel like you've put in a reasonable amount of listening time, suggest a change of venue or an activity ("Do you want to go for a walk?" or, "Let's grab a drink. I'm buying"). This usually allows for changing the subject without having her feel like you're cutting her off.

(credit for this one goes to another redditor... I think their name was "traplines")

What subreddit have you quit after being a fan for quite awhile? For whatever the reason. by vrakodarin AskReddit

[–]sezzme 1 point2 points ago

Not sure why you are being downvoted. Personally I'd like to hang with the atheists if I could since I seriously love science and intellectualism. Unfortunately I'm afraid of what would happen if I were to honestly say that I generally prefer to keep at least an open, curious mind about the whole big-invisible-friend thing and not get all fierce and judgmental about it. Oh well. :-/

A word of advice to new Geocachers!! by saimirinaein geocaching

[–]sezzme 1 point2 points ago

Another idea is to buy and wear an "invisibility vest." That's one of those bright orange vests you see worn by construction workers and road crews. If you wear one of those and carry a clipboard along with your GPS, EVERYONE seems to ignore you.

Back when I used to geocache, I had a vest made like that with the letters "TNLNSL" professionally printed on the back. It cracked up a few veteran cachers I met at the time.

To those of you who are losing your motivation, or having trouble finding it in the first place, I am sharing my sincerest thoughts with you. by hyptianin GetMotivated

[–]sezzme 1 point2 points ago

what do you do if you are just a terrible person, and you know consciously how to be a good person, and you recognize in hindsight the terrible or embarrassing or pathetic things you do or say and why you shouldn't be that way, but subconsciously it's just who you are and you can't micro manage every single thought or reaction you have? it's impossible to be in control all the time

I don't know if this can help... but in my constant struggle with my lifelong huge phobia that I might say something stupid, loud or obnoxious to the other person I'm talking to IRL and thus completely alienate them... I've learned a few things along the way.

First of all, there's something weird about the design of the human subconscious mind which goes like this: if you get REALLY angry at yourself for impulsively doing some damn-thing, guess what, the subconscious impulse to do that damn-thing again actually INCREASES in intensity.

Of course, that means you proceed to impulsively do that damn-thing even worse... which makes you get even angrier at yourself, which makes the impulse more intense to do it worse and you can't believe you did that damn-thing AGAIN... and down you go into an infinite spiral of hell.

What I've eventually learned in recent years is that the more you can let go of your anger against yourself and actually FORGIVE yourself for doing those damn-things, the more calm and in control you can be. The more you give up your anger about the damn-things you impulsively do, the more you actually get a sense of positive choice about what you can do as well as what kind of person you can be.

Something about giving up that anger is pretty difficult for some strange reason, at least in my own experience. In my case, I deeply felt it was ridiculously illogical to NOT be pissed at myself if I impulsively did that damn-thing again.

More recently I've been practicing more kind thoughts as a reaction... and it seems that actually works. I hope to feel confident in my IRL communication with people enough someday so that I can have more IRL friends..

See about giving up your anger against yourself over the next few weeks and tell yourself positive things about who you are as a person... and let me know after awhile if this works for ya.

(EDIT: explanation... my damn-thing was forgetting IRL to slow down and tune into the other person in the conversation and making sure that at least 50% of my communication was an acknowledgement of what THEY were saying. The more I can quit being angry at myself for talking too much or too loud, the more it seems I can communicate better. I still have a long way to go, however, but it sure beats the painful, original belief that I was born from childhood to be made of some kind of loud, obnoxious rejection-material in the first place, because of the "family" I unfortunately had to grow up in.)

What are some boyfriend/girlfriend/relationship hacks? Example from my girlfriend inside. (Potentially NSFW?) by cjknjknin AskReddit

[–]sezzme 2 points3 points ago

Repeat what she just said, then affirm her position. "Your uncle made a pass at you? That's fucked up."

Ask for more details. "Was he drunk? Did he realize it was you?"

Ask how she felt/feels about it. "Were you freaking out? What are you going to do at Thanksgiving?"

If you're having trouble following, and you feel like you've put in a reasonable amount of listening time, suggest a change of venue or an activity ("Do you want to go for a walk?" or, "Let's grab a drink. I'm buying"). This usually allows for changing the subject without having her feel like you're cutting her off.

You just did a better job of explaining active listening in one post than I have in all my time on Reddit... and I actively tend to preach this stuff a LOT. I'm saving your comment so that I can post it as a link in the future. :)

Will my husband ever stop mocking me or do I need to start thinking about divorce? by ipier9ewirin AskReddit

[–]sezzme 6 points7 points ago

That qualifies 100% as verbal/emotional abuse. Look up the author Patricia Evans who writes some very smart books on how to deal with men like yours. There are some proven effective strategies you can learn to fight it. Here's a good place to start.

To the Redditor that Suggested Knocking Down Weeds with White Vinegar- You Nailed it by sardonicsalmonin LifeProTips

[–]sezzme 9 points10 points ago

best solution ever

If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the precipitate.

Help my friend, a single mother recently abandoned by her fiance, start/promote her transcription service? by DrMcIntirein Assistance

[–]sezzme 2 points3 points ago

Here's some possible inspiration for you and your mom for starting her business: clicky.

Best Stay at Home/Work Anywhere jobs by StayHomeDad3in jobs

[–]sezzme 2 points3 points ago

Try this old thread.

Here's a more recent one.

Good luck!

Horrifying story of watching a co-worker die by isabellameyersin bestof

[–]sezzme 6 points7 points ago*

As the buddhists say "You must taste the bitter to know the sweet" and I'm starting to realize, after spending much time in monasteries in China and Bali that after all these years...I've forgotten to taste the bitter and I've been relying on the sweet as the norm.

I'm a cancer patient... having to cope with this disease has actually made me a better person for many reasons, including this one right here that you are talking about.

(Note of consideration for the handful of people following my comments... I suggest you NOT delve into the details of the thread where I made this comment... it WILL ruin your day.)

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