UPDATE Help! Is My Boyfriend a Pedophile?

ismybfapedo · 2012-05-21T21:09:11.884750+00:00

Yeah and if that one friend only tells one other friend...and then that friend tells another friend....surely you get the picture. OP completely mishandled the situation and violated her BF's trust even further by talking to someone else about it.

Ocet358 · 4 days

You're somewhat right, often there is little to be done if the bike is going down. What you can do however, is reduce the severity of the crash.

For guys that have raced or spent a lot of time on the track with motorcycles it does become sort of second nature in terms of how to crash without hurting yourself or your bike too badly. What you really want to avoid is the dreaded high-side.

I've been on both sides of it, first time it happened I was accelerating out of a left-right transition, still leaned over a good bit, and grabbed a bit too much throttle. Rear tire started sliding and I just let off the throttle trying to ride it out. Didn't work, rear tire hooked up, bike stood up (not wheelie, it stood up level instead of being leaned over into the turn) and I high-sided which is kinda like getting bucked off a bull except for me it was at 90MPH. I tumbled, the bike tumbled and neither of us looked very pretty afterward.

Fast forward a couple years, I repaired my bike and my body (yay titanium) and was back to doing track-days. Similar thing happened to me going through a turn, except this time I stayed on the throttle. I was going down either way, it was just a question of how. Staying on the throttle allowed the rear tire to keep spinning and ultimately the bike goes down. I went down, but it was a lowside instead of a highside. I was fine, bike had a bit of rash but most of it was absorbed by frame, swingarm and handlebar sliders. Was back out on the track for the next session 40 minutes later.

If you're interested just go to youtube and search for lowside motorcycle crash and then search for highside motorcycle crash. You'll immediately see why one is preferable to the other, and you'll see that the rider's input determines what is going to happen.

mushpuppy · 4 days

Exactly. I can just see his department saying something like "Oh, the gun thing wasn't really the reason he was fired, that was just the third or fourth offense. This guy has been a troublemaker here for 23 years."

....23 years!

fuddikiller · 4 days

I ran into that problem when I was in Malawi and Tanzania a few years ago. I was very careful about only drinking bottled water or soda, and only accepting unopened bottles, never pouring it into a glass or using ice, etc.. But I had a mental lapse and ate some salad. Well, they washed the lettuce with water, of course. I was pretty ill with stomach problems for about a month, went through two rounds of meds to get rid of it.

Zgyorko · 5 days

Wow man, that's pretty fucking depressing. Sorry to hear that.

numachiaway · 5 days

Yep, they'll be listening to music on his iPod and browsing the web on his laptop. If OP has receipts he should keep it all. Fuck that cheating bitch (not literally of course).

MrDong · 6 days

Unfortunately, as we saw in the video where one cop let a drunk cop go after deliberating for 15 minutes, some of the crimes committed by police are just going to go unreported.

pulloverman · 6 days

A couple of guys? Your first time? I think we need to hear more of this story!

Joeboxr · 6 days

I go from about 4 inches to nearly 8 inches. So does that make me a grower or a shower...or a little bit of both?

MakingPuppies · 10 days

You're right, I'm not important at all. I became a US citizen a couple years ago and I don't want to end up getting my citizenship revoked - that's what worries me. It is a mostly unfounded fear, but it's there regardless.

402dddd33 · 10 days

Playdough.

MakingPuppies · 10 days

Perhaps from a legal standpoint we still have free speech rights, but in reality there has been a very noticeable chilling effect on free speech ever since 9/11.

As a result, I no longer feel comfortable expressing my opinion about our government's foreign and domestic policies on the internet as well as in real life conversations.

tygriz · 10 days

They're licking it clean for ya.

Vslacha · 10 days

Intelligent. Addict.

subwayhuman · 11 days

I tried it, but my trust was never the same and she ended up cheating again. You said your girlfriend might be bipolar. Let me tell you from personal experience that if she doesn't get counseling and medication you will be in for the relationship roller-coaster ride from hell.

Only 9 months in? Your girlfriend is depressed, possibly bipolar, has low self-esteem and cheated on you (at least) once? Dump her and move on. I know it's the most common advice you'll see in RA, but in this case I believe it is justified.

mossner1992 · 12 days

For some reason this has never buggered me.

PondoSinatra · 13 days

Download on your phone and transfer to pc. :-)

clayfig · 13 days

Looks like Woody Harrelson.

PrinceManry · 14 days

If you're not going to live together in the future then don't say anything about it, it's not worth getting into an argument over something as trivial as a dustpan.

If you are going to live together in the future you'll need to talk to her about her cleanliness in general as that seems to be the bigger issue, instead of the $2 dustpan.

notmyselftoday · 14 days

You guys talked about whether either of you hooked up during the breakup. He said he didn't and you only told him half of the truth...so you lied. That's not someone who would be rather left in the dark...that's someone who you would rather leave in the dark.

notmyselftoday · 14 days

And you still hang out with him...

Even worse, she works with the guy, which means she sees him for extended periods of time almost every day. I think we all know why OP hasn't told the boyfriend about this particular hookup - because she knows he'll dump her as soon as he finds out.

First OP screws a mutual friend that she constantly assured her boyfriend she was not interested in or attracted to. Then she lies about it by omission. And to top it all, she works with the guy every day. How is he ever going to trust OP again? Granted, they were broken up at the time, but you'd have to be an idiot not to see that the boyfriend might have a problem with this.

notmyselftoday · 14 days

You're absolutely right in calling OP out for her behavior. Forget about the other guy she fucked, she went out and fucked a mutual friend that the boyfriend was already worried about having an interest in his woman. And she works with him too? Just fucking great. What does she think will be going through her boyfriend's head every day when she leaves for work? "There goes my little angel, off to her job at ABC Company where she'll spend all day with the guy she fucked last month while we were broken up." Seriously WTF? OP is an idiot.

notmyselftoday · 14 days

You should absolutely tell him because you should be honest about things like this and not lie by omission. He asked if you slept with anyone and you only mentioned one person, implying that you only slept with that one person.

You made several mistakes:

1) You didn't tell your boyfriend about this hookup when he asked. You lied by omission.

2) The guy you fucked is a mutual friend. If you knew this was just a "break" from your boyfriend you should have stayed far away from any mutual friends when looking for hookups.

3) You fucked the guy that your boyfriend was already a little worried about. In the past you told your boyfriend that this guy is just a friend and you weren't attracted to or interested in him. I'm sure he'll totally believe you when you say it's strictly platonic now.

4) You fucked the guy your boyfriend was worried about AND you work with him too?? What the fuck do you think your boyfriend is going to have on his mind every day when you go to work?

Jesus fucking christ, either you're a masochist or you're not too bright. Just tell your boyfriend already so he can get it over with and dump you.

fancywhale · 14 days

We all happen to work at the same place too.

I was on-board until you said this. Don't do it. Absolutely do not move in with all those people. Four people living and working together? Two couples? Best friends? There's too much to lose here - best friend relationship, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships - it's not worth it.

It's really hard for people to live and work together because you never get any downtime. You're around each other just about every waking moment and eventually someone is going to have a bad day or a bad week. Maybe it can work for a few months but I just don't see this working out in the long run.

ismywifeawhore · 18 days

Thanks for the update. You absolutely made the right decision. Don't worry about the trust factor, just be honest about it when you start dating again (wait a while before you start, whether you realize it or not you do need some closure first).

My ex cheated on me and once I started dating again I had the same concerns about my ability to trust and generally not be a jealous asshole. At the end of the day you just have to realize that whoever you date in the future is not your wife. Your future dates/girlfriends deserve your trust.

Good luck!

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